![]() I can watch my serenity level rise when I discard my expectations. The higher my expectations of other people are the lower is my serenity. The best answer I could come up with is from the Big Book: “my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. It is the challenge of knowing when to start doing something and act with courage or when to stop doing something and practice acceptance. Our difficulties arise when we exert our will to change something over which we have no power or not change something that we can change. This phase means seeking to know the difference between when I need to be silent, change my perspective, act differently or accept the situation as it is. This phrase embodies the third step: doing the mature and responsible thing, not our own self-centered will. Changing how I react is a discipline and takes courage because it involves risk and a willingness to take responsibility and confront my fears. I have control over my attitude and how I respond to what happens to me. The only thing that I can change is myself. This phrase embodies the second Step: doing things differently to change the outcome from insanity to sanity. I would like to be normal, have a perfect family and have normal, healthy children. I would like to be physically healthy, never suffer pain or illness. What areas in my life would I like to change but know I cannot? I would like to have everyone do everything that I want, when I want it. I can merely accept it as part of the journey. I no longer have to fear “change” or the unknown. I can choose to walk away, even if it means stepping out into the unknown. I no longer have to accept abuse in any form. Nor does it mean that I have to accept “unacceptable behavior.” Today I have choices. It does mean is I am powerless to do anything about it… and I have to accept that fact. ![]() ![]() But “acceptance” does not mean that I have to like it, condone it, or even ignore it. I learn that everyone has the right to make their own mistakes, and learn from them, without my interference, judgment, or assistance! ![]() When I admit that there are people, places, things, and situations over which I am totally powerless, those things begin to lose their power over me. I can only control how I respond to what happens to me. God is giving to me what I am asking for as an act of benevolence and grace. This phrase embodies the first step principle of surrender and acceptance. God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change WISDOM: The knowledge and insight to discern inner qualities and relationships through personal experience. So to be courageous means to live with the heart and requires both endurance and love. The Latin root of the word courage is cor, which means heart. Courage is the willingness to confront fear, danger, uncertainty, and intimidation, either externally and internally, with bravery, perseverance, honesty and zest. When I am in a place of acceptance, I am tolerant and I do not resist what is.ĬHANGE: to make or become different transform.ĬOURAGE: The mental or moral strength to persevere and withstand danger, fear or difficulty. When I am accepting, I surrender to the situation and take responsibility for what I have agreed to or received. SERENITY: the quality or state of being calm, peaceful and tranquil.ĪCCEPT: To receive or take something that is offered willingly To recognize or believe as true. ME: Used to indicate an individual who it the object rather than the subject of a verb. Grant implies being given something as a courtesy or act of grace that is not necessarily due to merit and could be withheld. GRANT: to permit as a right, privilege, or favor. GOD: the being perfect in power, wisdom, and goodness who is the creator and ruler of the universe God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
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